Category: Leadership

What’s your mission statement?

“People with clearly defined missions have always led those who haven’t any.  You are either living your mission, or you are living someone else’s.”

—Laurie Beth Jones, The Path: Creating Your Mission Statement for Work and for Life

It was said that during World War II, if an unidentified soldier appeared in the dark and could not state his mission, he was automatically shot. (1)

Mission in World War II was a matter of life and death.

It still is.

Do you know your mission in life?  If you don’t, how do you make decisions?  As the World Series begins tomorrow, I realized that I don’t care about it. At all.  But for the two team players, coaches, personnel, and fans, it matters. A lot.  Maybe the biggest goal of their life.

If you don’t know the target, it’s rather difficult to hit it. So the old adage goes, “if you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.”

Your mission is the most important thing you can do with your life. What are your life values? Can you name three? Can you name one? What are your unifying principles (overarching guiding principles that help you stay on purpose)? What do you want to accomplish in this world?

You might not know and that’s okay. But the sooner you discover your purpose and figure out your mission, the sooner you’ll be able to accomplish it. The sooner you will have a lens through which to make decisions. Here are some questions to meditate on to begin crafting your personal mission statement:

  • If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
  • If you could influence a cause, what would you choose?
  • What are some issues that you’re passionate about?
  • What are you really good at?  Where do these overlap?


Here are some helpful links to begin developing a personal mission statement:

  1. How to write a mission statement in 5 easy steps.
  2. How to write a mission statement in 3 easy steps.
  3. 12 inspiring company mission statements.
  4. Franklin Covey’s how to build a personal mission statement.  (you have to give your email).
  5. How to write a personal mission statement (in the Christian faith)
  6. Michael Hyatt’s helpful 3 questions.


(1) Laurie Beth Jones, The Path: Creating Your Mission Statement for Work and Life (New York: Hachette Books, 2001)


What will your funeral be like?

Your Deathbed Regrets

Have you ever thought about your funeral?  Morbid I know.  But something that might give some deep insight.  As you think about it, who is there?  What do they say?  What would you change?  What regrets do you have?  Have you ever been near someone when they are close to passing away?  It is a profound time when the divider between temporal and eternal becomes thin.  Mortal is about to step into immortality. It causes reflection upon one’s life and causes people to wonder what they would have done differently.  At the end of your life, what will stand the test of time?

Top 10 Life Regrets

1.  I wish I’d lived a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.  I wish I wouldn’t have compared myself to others.

2.  I wish I hadn’t worked so much and wish I made more time for my family.

3.  I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings more. I wish I had allowed myself to love, be loved, and say I love you.

4.  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5.  I wish I had pursued my dreams and aspirations, persevered and kept going.  I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.

6.  I wish I had saved more money for retirement.

7.  I wish I had taken more risks and taken more chances/traveled more/experienced more cultures.

8.  I wish I would have realized contentment and happiness are a choice.  It’s all about your perspective and attitude.

9.  I wish I had taken better care of myself.  Physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

10.  I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Sources:  “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing” by Bronnie Ware and study of residents in nursing homes.

How do you avoid having these regrets?  How do you live life to the full?  There is a book coming out in April that will address these regrets.  You will be equipped with better time management skills so that you can spend more time with your family and less at work. You will learn all about money and investing and how to budget now so that you will be able to have more money later. You will learn how to build better relationships with those around you and care for people in a deeper way. You will be able to influence more people as a result of reading this book and avoid many of these death bed regrets.  More to come in the future months.

You Were Meant to Change the World

Part of this next stage of the journey is to find out what matters in this life. Don’t spend your life only to look back with regrets later. Take control of who you are today. What matters to you spiritually, emotionally, physically, relationally, and mentally, and how will you give yourself to these things?  Most people want to make a difference.  Most people want to leave this world different than they found it.  If you want to change things, change begins with yourself.  Not many people have a deep life motto of: “I just want to come and pass through this life with a whisper and leave it the exact same as I found it.”



See future posts on how to “adult” with great wisdom and how to change the world.



Naked you come…and naked you go.

       Have you ever seen a hearse pulling a U-Haul? Or a wood chipper?   PC: Drew Johnson

The year was 2001.  The phone rang.  I was the only one in the office so I answered.  A low, gruff voice on the other end said, “I need to speak with the person in charge of your chapter at Princess Anne High School.”  Uh oh.  These calls could be trouble.  I was on staff with a non-profit organization that worked with high school students and we never knew what to expect, often receiving calls from parents worried about their kids. I responded saying that person was me and asked how I could help.  “We need to have a meeting” the bellowing voice said.  “OK, may I ask what it is in reference to?” was my reply.  “I want to know how I can help you” the deep, gravelly voice said back.  Whew!  Dodged a bullet.  The next week I would meet a man who would forever change my life.  His name was Jack Birsch.  When we met, he was well over 300 pounds and had a shiny, bald head and smoking a big cigar. At noon. In a Holiday Inn restaurant (one of the few places left in Virginia Beach you could smoke).  Thus, began a friendship which would change me forever.

We started meeting every couple of weeks, then every week for an hour, then it became two hours.  He had a twinkle in his eye and a way with words.  Jack was big on grace.  Jack was big on love.  Jack had a big personality.  After we had met several times, he asked me a question in his booming voice that would become a splinter in my mind:

Jack:  Have you ever seen a hearse pulling a U-Haul?

Me:  No.

Jack:  Of course you haven’t, because naked you come, and naked you go. So you better find out what matters in this life and give yourself to it wholeheartedly.

Jack continued to ask me that question every few weeks until it became engrained on my heart.  I asked myself what really mattered?  As I got to know him, I realized the impact of his life was still echoing all over Virginia Beach and all over the world.  It seemed like almost every day I would meet someone who would say: “Oh Jack?  He was a huge influence in my life. He showed up when I needed him most.”


Take a minute to think about your funeral.  Pleasant, I know.  But close your eyes and imagine what it would be like.  Who will be there and what will they say?  If you passed away tonight, how would you be remembered?  Would people be sad or indifferent?  Who would be there saying you made an impact on them?  Have you made a difference in this world?

Unsettling, isn’t it?  Morbid? Sobering?  Yes, it is. We all think we are going to live forever.  But there is bad news:  The death rate is holding steady at one per person.  You will die.  It’s just a matter of when and how.

We are temporary stewards of everything in our life.  This is bad news in one sense but good news in another.  It is freeing.  No possessions last forever, nor are they meant to. Dead people can’t enjoy their stuff.   If we figure out what matters, we can have a life well-lived.

Stephen Covey says that we should begin with the end result in mind.  He lists this principle as one in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People.  Most people want to have a very meaningful life…but most don’t.  Most people want to have a difference-making life…but most don’t.  Most people want to make a huge impact in their life…but most don’t.  What are you after? Who do you want to be?  A meaningful life and a life well-lived will not just happen.  You don’t get to have significance by watching Netflix.  No one ever drifts into greatness.  No one ever drifts into making a difference.  You need intentionality.

What is important to you?  What do you stand for? With what is happening in our nation and our world, we need men and women of strong fortitude and character who know the difference between right and wrong. And people who know what matters.



An incredible adventure comes to a close…

El Amal school camp group pic


This is a guest post from JMU student Anna Hornberger.  We are leaving at 5am tomorrow morning so thanks for going on this adventure with us.  It’s all real and it’s all true.


Marhaba! (That’s “hello” in Arabic). As this is our final day of Young Life camp, our hearts are full of love, our minds are full of biblical knowledge, and our stomachs are full of pita.

Two days ago, we said goodbye to our Capernaum friends, and almost immediately welcomed a new Young Life camp from El-Amal (meaning “Hope”), a Palestinian school for grades 7-12. Honestly, we had so much love for our previous group that I wasn’t sure how we would have space in our hearts (not to mention energy) to love 50+ new kids! Thankfully, our love is not our own, but rooted in Jesus. As the day progressed, local leaders from Zababdeh came to lead the campers, and together we welcomed them with open arms. Our new campers spent the day relaxing by the pool, and later were ushered into club to hear a wonderful talk by our own Matt Craig (translated by Hiba, a Zababdeh leader). We finished off the day with an obstacle course, which naturally ended with everyone getting pelted by water balloons mixed with flour (which, by the way, is still not out of my hair).

Yesterday, our JMU group ended our tour where it all began — the Shepherd’s Field and Church of the Nativity (traditional place of Jesus’ birth)—both in Bethlehem. Here, we learned that God chose to share the good news of Christ’s birth first to some of the most despised and lowly people in society — shepherds. We also learned that Jesus’ genealogy included people from different ethnicities, genders, occupations, and societal status — many of whom were outsiders. The point? God’s kingdom is for EVERYONE. All are welcome — from the lowly shepherd, to the prostitute, to the king. God’s kingdom is for the disabled, for the angsty teenagers, and it’s for you, too.

It has been so incredible to learn more about Jesus and how we can glorify Him in all things that we do, wherever we are. I’ll speak for all of us in saying that it’s bittersweet to be leaving the Holy Land, but we’re looking forward to sharing all we’ve learned about God’s love (and half-learned Arabic pop song lyrics) with our loved ones.

“…to the ends of the earth.”  Micah 5:4



Special needs? More like special gifts!

Hiba sharing the good news at Capernaum club. (notice Taryn with Doha in the front row on the right)

This is a guest post by James Madison University student Rayah Martin.  And the next to last post of our trip.  We have 2 days left.

This week we had the privilege of working and serving at a Capernaum Camp! I am a Capernaum leader in the states, so you can imagine how excited I was. Day 1 was filled with joy and laughter as we welcomed campers into the Murad Hotel where camp would take place. The day consisted of field games, pool time, meal times together, and club. The joy and freedom of these friends with disabilities was a true testament to the joy and freedom that Christ offers us when we walk alongside him. Our team served many different roles throughout the day, but our biggest goal as a team was to love the campers well – sometimes physically helping campers who were blind get from A to B, sometimes just dancing with a camper during club.

A highlight from Day 1 was getting to watch a camper named Mira steal the show at club as she danced up front during every game, every song, and even helped translate the club talk. She was hilarious and fun to be around, and she also reminded me of how fun life can be if we don’t take ourselves too seriously. She challenged me to live freely and authentically and be the woman that Christ has created me to be.

Day 2 of Capernaum Camp was equally as crazy as we got to start the day off with club, have lots more pool time, more meals, and a second club, PLUS a late night dance party! Our speaker, Hiba, gave the club talks in Arabic. It was emotional for me as I realized that the God that I pray to and follow is a God of all nations and all languages. Hiba was telling our Capernaum friends the same stories about Jesus in a totally different language – how great is our God that he is a God of all people! For people with disabilities and for people without special needs, for people who speak English and people who speak Arabic! Another highlight of Day 2 was watching my friend Taryn (part of the JMU team) lovingly care for a little girl with Down Syndrome as we swam in the pool, her name was Doha. Doha wanted to swim the entire 4 hours of free time but she couldn’t on her own, so Taryn held on to her and played with her through the whole afternoon (even sometimes getting slapped in the face). It was an incredible picture of Jesus’ patience and selflessness! Shout out to Taryn. (you can see her in the front row holding Doha in her lap in the picture above)

These past few days working with high schoolers with disabilities was powerful because in this part of the world, people with special needs are often especially forgotten. Many of these kids have been rejected by both of their parents and currently live in a group home. So having the opportunity to share God’s love with them was so beautiful. Thank you all for continuing to pray through our last few days here in Palestine. We are thankful and grateful!