Thanks so much for all the feedback. I really appreciate the conversation and dialogue. I’ve gotten so many emails and texts back with ideas, articles, thoughts, opinions, disagreements, etc. and I LOVE it. Keep them coming. Check out Part 1 The first 5 ways to become someone’s soulmate.
Here is one of my favorite thoughts from one of my favorite people. Shari Gaffney writes about The Bachelor:
“The one (and maybe only) redeeming quality [of the show] is the ability to see how a person you’re interested in relates in a group. Often dating takes place in isolation ~ But how does that person interact with others?…Have I shared my idea? Scrap the swanky Fantasy Suite and replace it with the Reality House. This is where a mini-van littered with cheerios (rather than a limo or helicopter) picks up the couple and takes them to a house full of kids with the flu. They need to care for the kids, make dinner (and there’s no ABC stocked pantry) there’s a checkbook on the counter with very little money for groceries and a pet is running wildly around the house. Let’s see if they are still soulmates and can envision a lifetime together 🙂 That’s more like real life ~ haha!”
I watched a little bit this past Monday and it was painful. Caila was blindsided after she put herself out there and was vulnerable. Onward. The second 5 ways to become someone’s soulmate:
6. Be vulnerable. Be transparent. Take risks. (maybe not like Caila though. I’m no expert but pretty sure it’s not good to tell someone you love them if they are dating 2 other people at that time).
7. Serve God. Give your lives away together. Soulmate = soul alignment. “Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” –Antoine de Saint-Exupery. It is in giving that we receive.
8. Serve each other. Put a serving towel over your arm and follow Jesus’ example. Learn their love languages—how do they give and receive love? Gary Chapman has a great book about this.
9. Be grateful for them. Have a posture of gratitude. Work hard to see and recognize the incredible blessing that a partner/companion is. See the best in them.
10. Encourage them. Dream for them. Have a vision for who they could become. Not just complimenting or flattery but look for the greatness and help to draw it out.
OK next week back to the Bachelor. Why is it so scintillating?
In coming weeks: Can you fall in love with the wrong person? Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time?